The things I have been looking for are the things I don't need. The things I haven't been looking for are the things I need.

I'm not seeking love not because I don't believe I need it it's just not something I care for. I'm avoiding relationships because I am avoiding love at a time when I need it the most. I don't understand it at all. I have been living my life pursuing the things that I don't need when I should have been pursuing the things that I do my best to avoid. I should be pursuing a career as a writer but I have been worrying about temporarily hustling to make enough money just to get by day to day. I'm a writer. I have been put on this earth to write but for whatever reason it's what I have avoided my entire life. The things that are necessities are the things that I avoid the most. The things that aren't that important to my livelihood are the things that for whatever reason I have been pursuing the most. Women, making money fast and just partying to have fun that will only last a few hours. I don't get it what am I programmed this way. I am twenty five years old and I have been living that kind of lifestyle for twenty five years now it's time that I stop it. I can no longer live my life pursuing things that do not matter to me. The necessities are what will make me happy like falling in love. I don't care who you are we all need it. However the most important necessity in my life is being a published author which has been my dream for more than a dozen years now. It's time that I make my dream a reality and I will do that by waking up from my dream and pursuing my goals without allowing anyone or anything to get in my way. I have always allowed other people's issues to get in the way of my own. When someone needed money I gave them the money they needed even in situations where I needed the money just as bad. I have any children and I'm not indebted to anyone therefore I am only living for me. The people who I thought I meant the most to are the people who are turning their backs on me first. Therefore I'm living for me and no one else. My problems comes first. My life goals will come before anyone else's. You can call that selfish well I've been the opposite way until this day and that hasn't gotten me anywhere. Now it's time that all changes.

Stereotypes makes us all stereotypical

Don't lie! Don't lie to yourself and don't lie to other people we are all stereotypical in one way or another. There's something about a particular race, sex or gender that we all are stereotypical about. Even hair color or the style of a person's hair makes us stereotype a person without even getting to know who they are. Why are we a world filled with stereotypes? Given that more than one person of a particular race or ethnic group is known to have done something doesn't mean everyone else of that particular race should be looked at in the same manner. However we all seem to believe in at least one particular stereotype. Does it make us racist? Of course not but it does make us prejudice. We prejudge someone so we cast judgment on others without given them an opportunity to prove us wrong. It's sucks and it's buffoonery. We need to put an end to stereotypes however realistically that will never happen no matter how much I would enjoy seeing it come to an end. This is our reality this is our world we are all stereotypical in someway. I don't believe it's right but even I prejudge people are based a stereotype off of the way someone looks, dresses or acts. Stereotypes won't end until we make the initiative for it to end the problem is I don't see anyone wanting it to stop so it won't.

Ladies stop acting too good, too shy and feeling like you'll look desperate and talk to us.

Great relationships begin and end with great communication. Sure money can cause conflict and yes great sex is needed however it isn't the end all be all. I want a relationship with a woman who can express herself whether we're in public or whether we're in private. I want a girl who isn't afraid to walk up to me while I'm surrounded by my friends to tell me that she finds me attractive. Women just expect us men be the initiators then they complain that they're still single. Well ladies a great relationship could be right before you and you won't know unless you step up to the plate and express to us guys how you feel or just begin a conversation. I've never read anywhere that a man should do all of the work to begin a conversation with a woman so why can't a woman just let us know what they're feeling. Attraction gains or attention and great communication keeps it. We have to stop acting as though relationships are only based on money and sex which are key factors however communication is the number one key. If you can communicate with the person you're in a relationship with it's not a relationship it's just sex and spending your free time with someone else. Don't let a good relationship potentially walk out of of the door because you feel as though a guy should approach you or you're too shy or you're fearful you will look desperate because you initiated a conversation with a guy to get to know him. To me a girl that can initiate a conversation is a keeper because she's not fearful or anything or anyone. She's an attention grabber instead of a attention seeker. I'll say out of the dozen or so relationships I've been in I have been the one to initiate the conversation that began the relation all but one time. And that one time that girl and I ended up being in a relationship longer than I have ever been in a relationship up until that point in my life. She was great conversation wise which kept me interested and of course she looked great to me as well. There's plenty of relationships that could've been great that never happens because a woman didn't initiate a conversation with a guy they felt attracted to. Stop acting too good or being too shy or feeling like you'll look desperate and just pursue the person you want to pursue.

Book titles can determined the success of a book?

It's head scratching to some but let's think about it. Book titles can be the detriment of a novel. Novels such as freakonomics, Moby Dick and even the Audacity of Hope are to me all good novels with not so good titles. Now let's take a look at some of the best selling novels over the past recent years. I know I know best sellers don't determine whether a novel is even a great novel it's just all about popularity. However a bestseller can be the determining factor in whether an author is able to publish a second mainstream novel or not. So in my opinion bestsellers do matter especially if you're an author who's main objective is to publish more novels and make a living off of being an author. Of course there are people who are totally against anything mainstream and i respect your standpoint but I don't agree with it. I believe you can be a successful novelist or successful anything without selling who you are in order to make it to the top. Even though anyone who's successful in the entertainment world or business world has to sell themselves as though they are a product and they are useful to a specific group of shoppers. Let's not act as though we don't have to sell ourselves like a product in order to make it known that we have a good piece of material that the world should known about. But back to the original reason I am writing this post. Bestsellers aren't determined by how good the title of your novel is but it certainly catches the eyes of readers which has been scientifically proven. A good title of a novel is eye-catching now whether the novel is good or not isn't determined by the critics it's determined by the readers. Critics are just overly opinionated less talented individuals who criticize more talented individuals for being able to do what they know in their heart of hearts they can't do. Moving on the reader determines the success of a novel and a title can be the biggest determining factor as to whether that novel catches the eyes of the reader or not. I'm not telling all up and coming authors to focus more on the title of their novel but it will surely be a benefactor if they do. Titles such as "The Hunger Games", 50 Shades of Grey", "Inferno", "The Host", "The Cuckoo's Calling" and even "A dance with dragons all have intriguing titles and some of which were the first major novel written by that particular author. Titles are as important to a novel as the main character is. Once your established maybe not as much but if you're not an established author I believe it can benefit your novel to have an attention capturing title to intrigue readers to at least pick up your novel and read the summary on the back and hopefully that summary is good enough to get that potential reader to purchase your masterpiece. Now let's read more and let's write more great material my fellow authors.

WE'RE obssessed with celebritieS but why?

We don't know them personally but somehow some people feel closer to a celebrity more than they do with their loved ones who they grew up with and know personally. To me most celebrities are actresses and actors on and off screen they're just acting in every which was possible so there's no try way of knowing whether or not they're being authentic so there's no true way of you knowing is the person you believe that celebrity is on camera really the person you like. Why are we obsessed with celebrities when we don't know next to nothing about them. They're just images that their agents and or managers feel we can relate to and feel will be able to sell. I feel that very few celebrities are who we think they are once the cameras go off. I know there are plenty of racist celebrities who keep their opinions behind closed doors. Their objective is to stay relevant no matter the cost. The only thing most of them truly care about is making money and portraying a likable or bad boy image will help them get the fame and fortune they crave so they'll put on that act on and off camera to get you to like them/ Why are we obsessed with celebrities? Are they really as interesting and different as well all think they are? Is living a life in the public spotlight where you freedom is stripped away from you really the ideal life. Sure money is not an issue and you can take what seems like endless vacations but is it really the ideal life that makes so many of us more interested in celebrities. This lifestyle isn't typical nor is it normal but why does that make us crave this sort of lifestyle so much? I can't answer that question but you can if you are in love with celebrities are a particular one. I've met much prettier and seemingly normal down to earth women than the ones I've seen from a distance in hollywood. They're not better than the quote unquote normal non celebrity girls. I would prefer a girl who isn't in the spotlight so our business isn't the world's business however some people enjoy that which is why so many shows even news shows are geared towards having shows based solely on celebrities and their problems. Our problems are much bigger than some celebrity who wore mismatching shoes. Are we really obsessed with celebrities? But why? I can't answer that question but most of us needs to get a life and stop worrying about those who will never worry about us.

Life is about adjustments after adjustments after adjustments!

Life can throw stones in your direction forcing you to redirect and come up with a different strategy to conquer your goal(s). However sometimes once you make the proper adjustment to dodge the hand that life has dealt you there maybe another stone thrown in your direction forcing you to make another adjustment. It sucks but this is what life is it's all about adjustments. It doesn't matter who you are life will throw road blocks in front of you and it's up to you to make the right adjustments. It's what life is it's not easy whatsoever therefore transitioning and adjusting is vital. Whether you lose a loved one or the love of your life you must adjust to life without that person no matter how hard it maybe. When somethings gone it's gone and that's when the adjustments must kick in. Truthfully you will have to make the proper adjustment and that adjustment might be to turn to someone else in your time of need whether it's temporary comfort or long term we're all different therefore we all have different needs and wants. Some adjustments may take years however Isomehow you have to manage to adjust to it. Now since that person is no longer in your life for whatever reason it's time for you to move on. Nevertheless you will have to make another adjustment on how you can turn to in your time of need not financially but more emotionally and psychologically. Life has a way of forcing you to adjust and make changes to your life at anytime. It's something neither science or spirituality will ever make you truly figure out. You just have to know life and know how you will deal with life when it deals you a heavy hand. Adjust to life because you don't have the power to make it adjust to you.

Money issues ended close relationships of mines!

From girlfriends to best friends to even siblings money is a divisive issue that can turn two lovers into two sworn enemies. Over the past two years I've been experiencing that firsthand. Money has turned my already shaky relationship with my sister into an even more divided one. I can't believe the strength of money and how it can turn a solid relationship between two or more people into a relationship that can just end abruptly. I should't be surprised thought because most divorces end due to money issues. It sucks but it's certainly reality. Note to self and you all should take notice do not lend any money to anyone or do not borrow money from anyone who you may not be able to pay back. It's that simple money ends relationships. It sucks but it's a harsh reality. Money is the root of all evil and it certainly does it's damage to people's relationships.